Setting healthy boundaries is not always easy. But don't worry life will make a unpleasant situation bigger and bigger until we get it.
When we get angry, upset or frustrated it means we simply crossed our own boundaries.
First step is to get aware of them, then we can set them very clear for ourselves and for others.
Setting healthy boundaries may not always seem very kind to the person on the other side. Not setting them, is not kind to ourselves.
I learned a lot about that when becoming a mum. I had people crossing my own boundaries, but I turned into a lion mum when someone tried to crosses my child's boundaries. And then, I realized I have to set boundaries in my own life to rolemodel for my daughter.
Learn how to recognize your own limits, respect them. Teach your child how to recognize her/his own limits. Teach him/her how to respect them by respecting them as well. And your child will naturally respect boundaries of others. Oh man, this is so helpful....at the playground and in life in general.
It's easier with strangers, more harder with friends and family. But remember, they might be our greatest teachers. Especially close friends and family members may believe they have the right to cross our boundaries. Sometimes the only way is to let them go and minimize contact. Especially for the ones who are dealing with mental dis-
eases around them. Like narcissistic personality disorder, bi polar or histrionic personality disorder....just to name a few I personally encountered.
By not taking their bullshit anymore, we actually help them as well. They get the chance to reach awareness......however, whether they get it or not, is not up to us.
Compassion from a distance. Sometimes, especially with mental dis-eases, no-contact is the only way to heal ourselves from that experience and to allow ourselves to move on.
A mantra that can help is: "Thank you for participating on my growth."
After the initial anger and hurt has past, we can reach a place of pure love and compassion:
"Thank you for participating on my growth. I have nothing but love for you."
And then life will provide us with similar situations, so we can practise and apply what we have learned. So don't get frustrated, if you have to let go of another person in your life. Trust that you are on the right path....as you always are. We are never done and therefore we can never get it wrong.